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Revolution is a woman

Revolution is a woman

To all my sisters in Poland protesting against the ban on abortion, to all the sisters worldwide that see their rights being violated every day. To all women and non-binary people who feel discriminated – revolution has many faces, but I believe now it is a woman. Women’s rights are human rights. As much as the politicians and lawmakers can hide behind a slogan “I haven’t met any LGBTQ+ person, so I don’t know what you’re talking about” (as it happened in Poland, where queer people were called “ideology”), they can’t claim they’ve never met a woman in their life. That one fact unites us all – everyone person reading these words had a mother. So it’s the right time to finally recognize women as an important part of society! Without them there wouldn’t be anyone here talking.

I created this illustration as I wanted to show women of different ethnicities and body shapes, fighting together for their rights. I also noticed that a lot of posters supporting women’s rights had no clear evidence that any of the women illustrated are mothers. And as much as I agree that women’s rights should be respected no matter if you decide to have kids or not, I also want to remind everyone that the women protesting very often have kids and families. They’re not some “angry feminists wanting to defeat men”, they’re our mothers, daughters, sisters… Who are fed up with someone else deciding on their lives and their wombs. Revolution is a woman, so fuck off patriarchy, we’re going at you.

#slaypatriarchy #dziewuchydziewuchom #womensrightsarehumanrights #cantbelieveihavetoprotestthisshit

revolution is a woman

 

Download the poster in English: revolution_is_a_woman

(PL) Pobierz plakat po polsku: rewolucja_jest_kobieta_plakat

Breast Self-Exam – How to do it in 5 Easy Steps

Breast Self-Exam – How to do it in 5 Easy Steps

October is the Breast Cancer Awareness Month and I decided to prepare a blog post with infographics to help women understand how to do a breast self-exam. I was never taught how to do it, I only knew you’re supposed to check yourself. But no one told me how, what to pay attention to. I can blame it on the poor (or basically non-existing) sex education in Poland, but I hope that days when it’s awkward to talk about checking your breasts are gone. I have a history of breast cancer in my family, and I know I’m not the only one.

“There are about 1.38 million new cases and 458 000 deaths from breast cancer each year (IARC Globocan, 2008). Breast cancer is by far the most common cancer in women worldwide, both in the developed and developing countries. Currently there is not sufficient knowledge on the causes of breast cancer, therefore, early detection of the disease remains the cornerstone of breast cancer control. When breast cancer is detected early, and if adequate diagnosis and treatment are available, there is a good chance that breast cancer can be cured.” – says World Health Organisation.

And self-exam is the easiest, free method of making sure nothing is wrong with your breasts. I prepared the illustrations and the guidelines based on breastcancer.org website, as I wanted to be sure they’re accurate and actually helpful. Yet, since I’m all for showing diverse beauty of women’s bodies and didn’t find women of different ages, shapes and skin colors on the illustrations for self-exam, I did my own ones. At the end there’s a file which puts them all together – I hope you can download it, print it or save it somewhere and do your breast self-exam every month.

Calendar - choose one day of the month

1. Choose one day and stick to it

It’s easier to be systematic when you’ve dedicated one day of the month to do the checkup. Alternatively, you can always choose a specific day of your cycle. The best is to examine yourself several days after your period ends, when your breasts are least likely to be swollen and tender. If you are no longer having periods, choose a day that’s easy to remember, such as the first or last day of the month.

Check how your breasts look in the mirror

2. Mirror check – overall look

Begin by looking at your breasts in the mirror with your shoulders straight. Remember: most women have breasts that are uneven, have different shapes or size. That’s not a reason to be concerned, that’s normal and beautiful, even though popular culture tends to forget about it. You’re not here to judge the way your boobs look, you’re here to make sure they’re healthy. All breasts are great – small, big, droopy, perky, round or long. But to enjoy them, you need to check if they’re healthy.

Here’s what you should look for:

  • Breasts that are their usual size, shape, and color
  • Breasts that are evenly shaped without visible distortion or swelling

If you see any of the following changes, bring them to your doctor’s attention:

  • Dimpling, puckering, or bulging of the skin
  • Redness, soreness, rash, or swelling

Look closely at your nipples and make sure there’s nothing suspicious

3. Mirror check – nipples

Now have a closer look at your nipples – the spot forbidden across all social media channels. Finally you don’t have to blur them, just enjoy seeing the natural wonder. For many women their nipples are erogenous zones, and a research has shown that the sensation from the nipples travels to the same part of the brain as sensations from the vagina, clitoris and cervix. Another reason to look proudly at your nipples. Again: don’t worry if the way they look matches with what society considers pretty. Nipples vary in size and color and that’s totally normal. Hopefully you don’t see anything new, but make sure to notice if:

  • A nipple has changed its position
  • A nipple is inverted (pushed inward instead of sticking out)
  • There are any signs of fluid coming out of one or both nipples (this could be a watery, milky, or yellow fluid or blood)

Raise your arms and look again in the mirror - do you see any changes?

4. Mirror check – arms raised

Now, raise your arms and look for the same changes.

Lie down and check your breasts with a hand

5. Check-up while lying down

This one deserves more work, but hey – at least you’re lying down. You’re going to mow a lawn with your fingertips now, going up and down your breasts. Be sure to feel all the tissue from the front to the back of your breasts: for the skin and tissue just beneath, use light pressure; use medium pressure for tissue in the middle of your breasts; use firm pressure for the deep tissue in the back. When you’ve reached the deep tissue, you should be able to feel down to your ribcage.

Use your left hand to feel the right breast and your right hand to feel the left breast. Use a firm, smooth touch with the first few finger pads of your hand, keeping the fingers flat and together. Cover the entire breast from top to bottom, side to side — from your collarbone to the top of your abdomen, and from your armpit to your cleavage.

Go into the shower, when your skin is wet it will be easier to spot any lump

6. Shower check-up

Finally, repeat the movements from step 5 when you’re in the shower – your skin will be more slippery and thus allowing you to spot something you might have missed before. Hopefully everything was fine and you can enjoy the shower, maybe add some singing as well.

That’s it!

What if you found something suspicious? First of all don’t panic. It could be many things other than cancer. Smooth, moveable lumps often indicate a cyst. It is not unusual for lumps to appear at certain times of the month, but then disappear, as your body changes with the menstrual cycle (if you are still menstruating). But do check in with your doctor’s offIce to make sure it’s nothing to be worried about.

Remember that the self-exam is only a part of breast cancer prevention. You should have your breasts checked by a doctor every year. For women at average risk, screening mammograms should be performed annually beginning at age 40 to check the breasts for any early signs of breast cancer.

6 steps of breast self-exam

Feel free to download it and print as a poster

Easy DIY Home SPA – With Recipes for Home-Made Cosmetics

Easy DIY Home SPA – With Recipes for Home-Made Cosmetics

I decided to create a series of blog posts about simple pleasures we can enjoy during the coronavirus lockdown. The all need to be: A) cheap (or free), B) easy to make at home, C) give you a chance to unwind and relax. Today my first episode about Home DIY Spa with recipes to try out!

1. Finding place and time

As long as the world exists, there will be always the ones who prefer bath and the ones who prefer shower. Regardless of which group you belong to, it’s a wonderful way to calm down. It doesn’t matter if your bathroom looks like Cleopatra’s baths – make the most of what you have. The decision you make to dedicate this time yourself is the most important.

Don’t be shy about it – tell your partner, roommates that you will need the bathroom for an hour (or as much as you want/can) and you don’t want to get disturbed during that time. If you want music – bring it on, but if you’re using your phone – please silence it for that time. No need for the outer world to notify you of its existence.

2. Turn it into a ritual

Think of what brings you pleasure and try to achieve it with what you already have in your bathroom/house. Think of the order in which you will use them and prepare them at hand – if you go to SPA, you never get a random treatment in the middle of something else.

Good preparation will help you enjoy every moment, without stressful running out of the shower, because you forgot the towel from your bedroom. It will also help you make the most of the time you have for yourself – you can shave your legs while having a mask on your hair, or paint your nails when you have a face mask etc. For once women use your wonderful multitasking skills for the sake of no one else but yourselves.

3. Make your own cosmetics

If you want, plan it ahead of time, then you can even make your home made cosmetics. We’re so used to getting everything at drugstores, when a lot of wonderful beauty ingredients we have at home.

And whereas creating your own facial cream is a next level (making sure it’s not going to irritate you, adding preservatives etc), the cosmetics your rinse off are much easier to make and basically error-free. Here are my favorites (names by me ;-):

Mermaid Hair Mask

Zakrecovnia DIY PEH hair mask

INGREDIENTS:
2 teaspoons of honey
1 egg yolk
1/2 table spoon spirulina
1 table spoon of your conditioner (for the right texture and easy application)
1 table spoon oil of your choice (I use sunflower oil most of the time)

HOW TO: Mix all the ingredients in a small bowl and put it on dry hair (if you put it on wet hair it will start dripping pretty quickly – trust me, I made this mistake at first). Leave it for 40-60 minutes – it’s pretty dense, no need to worry about dripping when the hair was dry. Spirulina gives it dark green color, but is safe for both your skin, hair and clothes – I tested it on me.

WHY IT WORKS: You may never have thought about it, but there are different ways in which you can hydrate your skin/hair. Three major categories of the substances are: proteins, emollients and humectants, in short PEH.

Only when they are in right balance, your hair will look healthy and you will not have problems with their structure, curliness or shape.

Proteins

are amino acids and biomolecules responsible for composing hair structure – your hair is made in 95% of keratin, a type of protein. The amount of proteins you should take in depends on your hair porosity (easiest way to test it is a float test: take a couple of strands of hair from your comb or brush and drop them into a bowl of water. Let them sit for 2-4 minutes. If your hair floats, you have low porosity. If it sinks, you have high porosity). High porosity hair tolerate larger amounts of protein much better than the low porosity ones, in which it can cause loss of volume. Types of proteins found in beauty products: silk, collagen, keratin, elastin, wheat/maze proteins.

Emolients

prevent water loss from inner hair structures and damage – basically think of them as a form of a raincoat for your hair or skin. Any form of oil is an emollient, but also shea butter, silicones or paraffin wax (the latter two not recommended for curly hair). If you lack moisture in your hair/skin, emollient is not going to make it better – covering it with a waterproof coating will not make it moist.

Humectants

That’s why you need humectants – hydroscopic substances that attract water molecules and store it in your hair. But it all depends on the weather and humidity – if you’re in a humid environment, you will probably don’t need any humectants at all. Popular humectants are: urea, hyaluronic acid, glycerin, d-panthenol, aloe.

As you can see now, this mask has all the 3 PEH ingredients:

 

  • proteins from spirulina,
  • emollients from egg yolk and oil,
  • humectants from honey.

I use the mask around once a month, when I feel that my hair is just not at its best and don’t really know which one of the 3 I am missing.

I discovered this mask on a Polish blog about curly hair zakrecovnia.pl

The Glow-Getter Sugar Scrub

The Simple Veganista blog scrub
INGREDIENTS:
1 cup of brown or cane sugar
3-5 table spoons of olive oil
1 spoon of lemon juice

HOW TO: Put sugar into a small container (it will last for around a month so your can use an old cosmetic container or a jar if you would like to keep it). Slowly add olive oil, until the texture gets sandy. The sugar shouldn’t bee swimming in olive oil, as it will dissolve within a few days and not do its job. If you added to much olive oil – add a bit more sugar, and vice versa. Best used after the shower or bath – water loosens the skin and makes it easier to get rid of the dead skin cells.

WHY IT WORKS: Olive oil is know as a “humectant”, which means it draws moisture into our skin. Sugar contains glycolic acid, which helps dissolve dead skin cells. Lemon adds the aroma and has plenty alpha hydroxy acid (AHA), which help exfoliation (but the amount is small enough to not make it dangerous in any way).

I found this recipe on The Simple Veganista blog and simplified it.

The Cocoloco Leave-in Hair Conditioner

Mommypotamus Leave-In DIY Conditioner
INGREDIENTS:
¼ cup distilled water (or tap water that has been boiled for 5 minutes and allowed to cool)
1 table spoon coconut milk
2 – 10 drops essential oil (optional)

HOW TO: Start by adding the essential oil to coconut milk, if you’re using them. Then dilute the coconut milk with water, pour it into a spray bottle (I usually use an old spray bottle left from some other cosmetics but you can also buy a new one at a drugstore in the travel section). That’s it! So simple! Since it doesn’t have any preservatives, it’s better to prepare a small batch and use within a week and keep refrigerated. When using, you just spray damp hair with the conditioner after washing it and air or blow dry – as you please.

WHY IT WORKS: Coconut milk is high in lauric acid, known for its ability to moisturize the hair and strengthen the cuticle. It also has a high protein profile, and that’s what your hair is mostly made of, hence keeps them in good condition.

This was my first experience with home made cosmetics – I was in Lisbon, without my usual go-to hair cosmetics and decided to experiment a bit. I found this extremely simple recipe on Mommypotamus blog and loved the results.

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Styling for boudoir and portrait photography – what to wear and what to avoid

I will talk here mostly about boudoir photography, but majority of these tips you can also apply to any other type of portraits. Hope it help you get the best out of your photos!

1. Be natural = be yourself

 

The first thing that might come into your mind is: “I’m going to be photographed, I need to work on my look!” and that’s totally understandable, but also please don’t go overboard. Stay true to the way you are everyday, or otherwise you will end up looking not like yourself (unless that’s your goal). Many times boudoir photography is paired with a makeup and hair styling session, and as much as I get it, I like to do things differently. I want women to look naturally beautiful – and you can define what naturally means to you. You feel natural with mascara on? Great, go for it. You never wear any makeup? Why should you change that for the occasion of the photo shoot?

It’s important to me you remain your everyday self. Why? I believe only when you embrace the way you and your body looks without all the extras, you can be fully empowered and liberated. Because you will feel beautiful just the way you are.

I think that when you come to a photo shoot and get all the makeup, hairdo etc. you get transformed into a version of you that normally doesn’t look back at you from the mirror. It can be a wonderful experience, but it’s a form of performance – the moment you get back home and take a shower, you go back to being your everyday you, very different from the “glamour” styling. Looking back at the photos in that situation can, in my opinion, unfortunately make you even more self-conscious: “I looked pretty once for a brief moment and right now I’m back to my regular boring me”. And that’s so untrue! When I take photos of the way you naturally are, you can relate to that every f*ing day, you can replicate the feeling you got during the photo shoot very easily, because you were the stylist, the hairdresser and the makeup artist! And you know that there’s no need for the whole “theater” around your appearance to be beautiful.

I don’t want you to change only for the photo shoot, make you feel and look unlike yourself and only then say “now you’re ready for a portrait”. I want to show you that the way you are every day – you’re great, beautiful and there’s nothing that should change about it.

2. Colors

Generally you should stick with colors you feel good in, but if you got this bright red dress and never found the courage to wear it – now it’s the time to give it a chance. Also remember a few rules:

  • a color that’s much lighter than you complexion will always make you look more relaxed and  give you that glow. Fair skin tones – consider wearing white. Darker skin tones – white can be in too much contrast with your skin, so consider something neutral but still much lighter than your complexion, because…

 

  • nude color (=the same shade as your skin color) is usually not flattering – always opt for something lighter or darker, not the same shade as your skin.
  • warm, muted colors usually work well with portraits – think of curry yellow, brick, earthy shades, dusty pink, peach, muted teal etc.
  • strong cold colors don’t usually work – every color you wear is casting shade onto your skin/face, and you don’t want to end up with a strong green hue on your face; avoid: strong green, blue. Also avoid strong red if you have a pinkish complexion.

     

Hana sitting and drinking coffee

3. Don’t be a banner for someone else’s promotion

Avoid clothes with big logos, promotional texts or portraits of celebrities on them – you don’t want to be someone’s advertisement for free. The only person you should promote is yourself. Other texts – if meaningful to you – are obviously more than welcome.

Below Adi in a great example of a meaningful wording on a T-shirt, that’s great to use during a photo shoot. Adi brought it to the photo shoot and it prompted me to combine it with a playful pose.

4.Be comfortable

Steer clear of clothing that is too tight. You want to be able to move around and feel good. Since we’re talking about boudoir here – lingerie and all related items are welcome. Anything that makes you sexy but also comfortable: bras & panties, body, night gown, corset, stockings and dress, skirt, sexy sweater (especially oversized ones you can wear on naked body), jacket, shirt/T-shirt, high socks, shoes (not necessary – only if you have ones you really want to show off).

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5. If you want naked photos – plan in advance.

If you’re planning any naked photos, please wear a bra/panties that don’t leave marks on your body, or just no bra. The same with outer clothes – if they’re too tight, it will take quite a long time for the seams and creases marks to disappear from your skin.

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Best Tips And Free Apps to Take Your Photography to a Next Level

Use Your Phone Camera like a Pro

First of all – most mobile phone cameras are currently good enough to take some really nice and good quality photos. You just need to know how to use them better. I will share some basic knowledge of how to measure light and help with composition using the tools your phone camera has already.

I’m using an iPhone, so sharing how to do it on an iPhone, but I’m sure it’s similar for all smartphones.

1. USE GRID TO GET BETTER COMPOSITION

how to turn on the grid in iphone camera

This will allow you to see a grid of 2 by 2 lines, dividing your screen into 9 rectangles.

This is the basic rule of composition – the most important elements on your photo should either go along the lines or be positioned in the 4 intersections the lines create.

These are the lines/points that our eye is most drawn to. When you place an important element of a composition along the lines, it will create a feeling of balance, so sought after when taking photos most of the time. Usually you want people to focus on the subject of your photography and not get distracted by weird cropping.

main focus points on the portrait photo

Portrait of gorgeous Adi – you can see how placing one of her eyes along the composition line created a feeling of balance.

portrait main focus points grid

Portrait of Andrea – the very strong triangular shape created by her bend leg ends exactly in one of the main focal points.

Remember about the main 4 intersections – these are the most “powerful” points of the composition

They’re not too much on the sides and not too much in the center of the photo. Try placing an important element of the composition in one of them.

2. BE THE MASTER OF LIGHT WITH ONE TAP

Tap on the element that’s the brightest on your photo, the camera will automatically adjust the light settings to make the rest of the frame darker. Another thing you can easily do: just tap on the screen and without raising your finger slide up or down – you will add/reduce exposure, meaning brightness of the photo. Especially useful when you’re taking photos in dark settings.

how to adjust camera brightness on your phone

Edit With Free Apps to Rule the Colors

1. VSCO – the most famous photo filters

VSCO started with their own app a while ago and quickly became THE app for editing photos.

When you see Instagram influencers posting moody or vintage looking shots, high chances they are using VSCO.

The app comes in a free version with a limited amount of presets, which you can extend paying $19.99 for a yearly membership.

What’s nice about these presets, apart from the wide variety of options, is that it allows you to control the amount of filter (from 0 to 12) and adjust other aspects of the photo like cropping, exposure, color, grain, fade. VSCO also has their own built-in camera option, so that you don’t even have to upload photos from your photos stream but take them directly within the app and edit immediately afterwards.

Selfie in the VSCO app with filter slider

You can easily decide on the amount of filter you apply with the slider – here it’s the maximum amount: 12

2. Afterlight – when you want to get more funky

photo with light streak from afterlight

Portrait of Adi to which I added a matching light leak to create a bit spiced-up image.

Afterlight offers you quite a good choice of filters (you can extend that with a premium membership for 3,49€ / month or 19,49€ / year) but the reason I’m mentioning it here is the ability to play with the photos afterwards: light leaks, color shifts and frames are available in the free option.

3. Tezza – vintage look from a photographer and musician who rocks Instagram with her back-to-70s style

If you would like to experiment with the grungy look – Tezza offers addition of dust and grain to make it look like an old camera photo. There is a premium version as well, which allows you to add vintage-looking subtitles to your photos and videos, as well as wider range of filter choices ($1.99 /month or $19.99 /year).

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Tezza App can help you turn everyday bedroom setting into a vintage style boudoir feel – photo with added grain and dust.

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There’s no better feeling than when you read something like that:

“Shout our to my friend Monika @berlinboudoir for making women like me feel BEAUTIFUL!⠀I never thought there was something wrong with my body. It’s a body, it’s the body that made me graduate, find a job, find people that love me and whom I love. However especially for a short and plumpy (thick but chic, clunky yet funky, you call it) person like me, it’s easy to fall in the trap and believe the people who think you don’t have the physique du rôle, that everything good you got in life, you got it despite those comic buttcheeks and those disastrous thighs.⠀
I often numb out and convince myself that my body and the perception I have of it are things that I shouldn’t take too seriously.⠀
But now I look at this picture and I feel empowered and fierce – I dare you prove me wrong and tell me I’m not beautiful 😉 I root for all the girls who have the hunger, and take seriously both the beauty and the brains. Don’t let anybody tell you that you can have only one, or else “you will intimidate them”.⠀
Be proud and let ’em eat it :D“

Thank you Eva! You make me believe in what I do and give me strength to continue against difficulties. BIG LOVE!

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Love yourself on Valentine’s Day

Love yourself on Valentine’s Day

FALL IN LOVE WITH YOURSELF this Valentine’s Day, because there’s no better gift for you and anyone you love than being happy and accepting with who and how you are.

MY STORY: It took me a long time to accept the way I look. I remember waking up and wishing I could see someone else in the mirror – I didn’t have a specific image I wanted, just something else, different. And of course, as probably any woman in the world, I used to dissect my body in my mind dividing between the ones I accept and would like to change immediately.

MY BREASTS was the hardest part for me to accept. I felt like I was only half-woman since my breasts are so small. I also didn’t fit in the skinny girl figure type, as my hips have grown quite a lot during puberty. For quite some time as a teenager I was hoping my breasts would catch up – never happened. Years and years I felt awkward when I had to switch clothes in changing room at a gym, avoided going to the beach, wearing spaghetti strap tops and anything that would bring attention to this part of my body. I felt comfortable wearing push-ups only, but then I was always afraid of the moment it will be obvious that my breasts are smaller than my cup size.

And then I met a person that showed me how to love them. To not expect perfection from them and appreciate them for what they are. Suddenly I discovered that there are actually some advantages of having small breasts, like being able to not wear a bra at all and still feeling comfortable. I started laughing that they are just concentrated type – take less space but have everything they need to make me happy.

I’m so grateful for the body-positive movement, I hope the next generations of girls (boys, transgender people) will never have to doubt their bodies. They give us so much pleasure, LOVE THEM TODAY, TOMORROW AND ALWAYS.

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Berlin Boudoir Xmas Gifts Guide

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Thais, February 2019

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Dear Body – Hana, Feb 2019

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Adi, January 2019

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Thais, February 2019

Thais, February 2019

Amazing Thais, Brazilian Berlinerin, mother of two, architect.

Thais brought this swimsuit (photo below) to the boudoir shoot and wasn’t sure if it’s going to work. She said that since she became a mother she no longer feels appropriate wearing it as it has a bit of side boob and very high cut on the hips. But she still felt she likes herself wearing that. My response: that’s exactly what we’re looking for! It doesn’t need to be lacy lingerie all the time. The only rule: YOU NEED TO FEEL FABULOUS.

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These boots are made for walking. And that’s just what they’ll do. One of these days these boots are gonna walk all over you.

I think of the famous Nancy Sinatra song looking at Thais’ shoes (photo below). There’s a tendency to pick high heels as the right shoes for boudoir. Wrong! Any shoes, if they make a statement, are good for a boudoir photo shoot.

I encourage women during the photo shoot to strike something I call a power pose.

The moment you do that, you can think about how well you’re dealing with all the difficulties in life, how a bad-ass female you are and ain’t no mountain high enough. You will then have this photo to refer to in moments when you a reminder that there is this Wonder Woman inside you all the time. At the end of the day, we can endure much more than we think we can said Frida Kahlo.

 

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5 myths about boudoir photography

5 myths about boudoir photography

1. Boudoir photography is all about showing sexy women in lingerie or naked.

Wrong! Boudoir is a French term, which refers to a woman’s private room where she can have all the time for herself. This type of photography is all about being intimate, cozy and sensual, but you don’t need to pose in sexy lingerie to feel that. Everything that can waken up your senses is very welcome – your favorite soft sweater with a pair of woolen high socks can be a perfect solution. It’s not all about showing your skin, but of course it can be a part of it – you decide.

Above a photo of myself I took long before I knew I would ever live in Berlin and start boudoir photography. Yet I craved this atmosphere of calmness, intimacy and femininity. Photos on which women are powerful and strong yet delicate. This fake fur I bought on discount became a perfect excuse to try it out.

2. You get boudoir photos as a gift for your partner.

Boudoir in my opinion is all about feeling comfortable in your own body, owning your body image and your sexuality. It’s not about being sexy for someone else, it’s about showing yourself that you care about the one and only body you have. I know that you can find boudoir photos focused on pleasuring the viewer on the internet: women perking up their breasts or sticking out their butts towards the camera. But it shouldn’t be a “who’s the sexiest” contest.

There’s a saying beauty is in the eye of the beholder and as much as I agree with it, we tend to put ourselves in the place of the beauty not the beholder. True magic happens when you position yourself as the beholder – you’re the judge of who and what is beautiful. You don’t need to expose yourself and wait for the judgement of others to know if you pass the beauty test or not, you can simply put yourself out there claiming “I’m beautiful.” Of course there might be people who disagree, but isn’t it the wonderful part of this diverse world? You may think roses are the most beautiful flowers, but someone will find them too cliche – and we don’t get upset about that. You are beautiful and you can decide to share your beauty with the world through boudoir photos if you wish so.

3. You need a total visual makeover before a boudoir shoot.

Marilyn Monroe once said “A smile is the best make-up any girl can wear” – I can’t agree more with that. In my opinion boudoir photos should make you feel at ease, happy and cheerful. I know that there are some photographers who offer hair styling and make-up services, and it’s completely fine if that’s what you’re looking for. But I want to show an alternative and remind women it’s an option not a necessity. Of course you can look amazing after a whole staff took care of your looks, but I want to show you that you don’t need all of that to feel and actually be pretty. Just come the way you are every day. You can wear make-up and style your hair, if you feel like it. But you can also stay as natural as you want. Just wear a smile and it will be fabulous.

4. Boudoir photos are only for young and slim women.

Biggest mistake you can make! There are no limits to what is beautiful, but unfortunately we were raised in a culture that decided there are certain boundaries. You need a firm, flawless skin, perky breasts, round butt, big eyes, small nose, long legs – you know, the Barbie type. But let me tell you – of all the wonderful women I photographed not a single one felt she has passed the “beauty test” from the start. And they came from all different countries, ethnicities, shapes and ages! When you’re white you want to get tanned, when you’re brown you want to avoid sun and not get any darker. All these laws of beauty are so contradictory simply because they’re straight up bullshit installed in us to make us feel smaller and less powerful.

We’re beautiful at every size, every stage of our life. And I’m on a mission with Berlin Boudoir to show that to all the people around. Stretchmarks, wrinkles, saggy skin, round belly – they deserve our love, they show the way our bodies went with us through life. Why would we be ashamed of them – they’re the witnesses of our resilience and strength. Show them with pride.

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5. You need to know how to pose/have experience in front of camera.

Absolutely not! In my photo shoot I will never ask you to strike a pose that feels uncomfortable, so you don’t need to have special posing skills.

When I first started Berlin Boudoir I asked my boyfriend to come and help me try out poses I found online. Oh my, how surprised I was to discover that some of them, which seemed easy, turned out to be really hard! I knew I never want to turn my models into a robot when I’m instructing them to move every body part separately. You should feel comfortable at all times during the photo shoot – that’s my main goal. If you feel good, you’ll look good as well.

Aphrodite in boudoir

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Eva, February 2019

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